Wednesday, August 12, 2009 11:29 PM
Clique within clique, Good or Bad?
Today, let's us discuss the topic on cliques. Will be a short one since I am a bit tired after a long day outside.
Part One.
Everyone starts off being a stranger in a whole group of people in a new environment though there may be chances of meeting familiar faces in the group but usually the chances are slim. There are several criterias in forming a clique. Let's start off with strangers and strangers, these people are what I referred to as 'Fresh', they are the ones who do not know anyone in the group nor have any friends within the group. Thus when the situation forces them to interacts, they have no choice but to spark off a conversation or people will automatically come to interact with you. If there are no such environment that forces the FRESH, they won't be bother to start a communication unless they are interested with a particular person whom attracts their attention.
The second group of people are people who have friends within the group, either they come together or coincidentally meets each other in the group. They are the most influential people in the group, the most potential to form cliques within the group. The bigger their known friends in the group, the more influential they are. They are what I called 'Ripe' , they are the ones who choose people to be in their clique and not people choose them. Most frequently, they are the voices in the big group if they are vocal enough because they are comfortable with known people around, thus not afraid of the new environment.
The third group are what I called 'Half Boiled', they are the ones who has friends within the group whom they did know BUT they are either school mates/hi-bye friends/lost contact friends/simply friends' friends. Normally, our intuition will tells us that unless we are forced to interact, they are the ones whom we will first look for. Otherwise, can avoid then will avoid. At least that's my mentality. Thus this group belongs to the 'either clique' or 'not clique at all'. Quite a sitting on the fence situation.
So when this stage where cliques are formed, will there be any more progression within the clique?
What do you think? Humans are a 'difficult to decipher' species, there are bound to be arguements, disagreements and fights within these cliques. Worst situation will be internal politics, which symbolises destruction of a clique. Prays hard, this will never happens.
I felt that clique within clique are generally bad in a way that it brews disharmony within your clique of friends, which may states that you are more comfortable with that certain group of friends but not the other half. Means in general, unless there are a major occasion where everyone needs to be present, most of your time, you will be going out with your clique that were formed within the clique. It's good in a way that they tends to be the ones who knows you the best, common interests thus having more valuable time together.
But have you ever thought of what will be the feelings of the other people in the clique? Of course it will be that of unbalanced when that clique started chit chattering about their small small outings.
I guess such situation can't be avoided as time goes by. Putting this in the context of marketing. When targeting a new market, you will have to survey (which is the 3 categories of people you belongs to) then you will know what course of action you will take to enter the market (forming clique). So as time goes by, more competitors come into the market (all getting to know better of one another), the market began saturated thus need to find niche areas to target on in the market itself (thus forming cliques within clique because you are more comfortable with that certain group of friends).
My stand on this topic will be that it's neither good nor bad, but I am more inclined towards the good side because being in a big group, if you are not loud enough or funny or interesting enough, you will become transparent in the group, just absorbing and taking in everything like a sponge. Difficult to merge in unless the topics are the ones that you are familiar with. BUT within a the clique that you formed within the bigger clique, contains people sharing your similar thoughts, interest and etc. easier to be yourself and get heard within a smaller group.
thus it's better... in my context... or maybe it's just me la... take my comments with a pinch of salt.
Jason stops here..
